This is a very old post, which I was not willing to share before today. I am posting it today, because Feb 28th is celebrated as Rare Disease Awareness Day. I am sharing this today because I feel immense pride in the achievements of my kids and because I want to celebrate them. My kids are suspected with a metabolic disoder called mitochondrial disorder, wherein their body doesnot produce enough energy to sustain life functions. Even though people may not know much about mitochondrial disorder, its pretty common and as the genetic research is advancing, more and more kids and adults are getting diagnosed.
My younger daughter is also diagnosed with cortical visual impairment and bilateral hearing loss. In CVI, even though eyes function well and can see, brain cannot process these images. She is getting better with rehab, but is still considered to be legally blind.
I wrote this poem for K, when she had temporarily lost her eyesight post intubation in 2012 after Acute Respiratory Distress caused by H1N1. For a whole month, she was fully blind and completely deaf. When I wrote this poem, I didnot know what caused her sudden blindness (because there was no damage to the cortex region in the brain),or whether it is temporary or permanent?
I was confused because I had not experienced blindness before. K had hearing loss and visual impairment, both at the same time. Imagine a world without two of the most vital senses and she was right there. I was scared. I was hurting because I knew my daughter was scared and lost. She was just two years old at that time, she could not even talk, and I knew she would have many questions, but she just did not know how to ask. I was scared whether I would be able to help her, guide her, teach her and make her a self sufficient, responsible, independent individual or not. I was scared, because I did not know how to protect her. I wanted to see the life from her perspective, to understand her frustrations, and I was scared that I would fail.
This poem is very special to me because it helped me to release my bundled up emotions and motivated me to look beyond the heartache and pain I was feeling in my heart for K.
Why is there so much darkness around?
Where are the stars, the moon can't be found?
Did the little bird in the garden finish her nest?
Are the trees still green? Is the sun still round??
O mother of my, why do I feel so lost?
I hugged my little girl, and wiped her tears,
I told her, don't you cry,
Honey, you are in a better world,
The butterfly is You, for your imaginations can fly..
There is nothing fun about the sunlight,
And who said that the trees have to be green
And dont you say you are lost,
That is so untrue and so mean..
You have been found by the god
For he said that you need to see the world from his eyes,
So that you dont get caught in the web of lies,
He gave your soul eyes, and made your eyes blind..
Now you can see what we all can't see..
For you will see the beauty of soul and not the body,
For you will see the kindness of people and not their money,
And you will taste the sweetness it adds, but not see the honey..
You will feel the beauty of the nature,
The colors of the flowers will be filled by your dreams,
You will be the little pixie dancing in the Neverland
You will guide the current and captain the boats in your stream !!
Don't you waste those precious tears of yours !
They are far more precious than all the jewels,
They open the door to your heart and soul,
Only let those who are worth it, to come that close.
Shed your tears when you feel betrayed,
Cruelty, blasphemy, prejudices and hatred...
These are the emotions that you do not need in your heart
So when you feel these, just shed a tear and melt it off !!
I want you to make a difference in your life.
I want you to make a difference with your life.
Not a big change in the world, just small things,
Touch a life and make someone smile, one day at a time.
For you are God's special child.
For you are an angel of mine.
For God has given winds, under your wings.
So dont be scared, just fly and fly !!
She smiled, gave me a kiss, felt something, looked up 'n said
why are your cheeks so wet?
I tried to hide it, was embarrased but then I confessed,
Little one I dont care about the trees, moon, stars or the sun's shape,
but I do hope that you will remember your mother's face.
My younger daughter is also diagnosed with cortical visual impairment and bilateral hearing loss. In CVI, even though eyes function well and can see, brain cannot process these images. She is getting better with rehab, but is still considered to be legally blind.
I wrote this poem for K, when she had temporarily lost her eyesight post intubation in 2012 after Acute Respiratory Distress caused by H1N1. For a whole month, she was fully blind and completely deaf. When I wrote this poem, I didnot know what caused her sudden blindness (because there was no damage to the cortex region in the brain),or whether it is temporary or permanent?
I was confused because I had not experienced blindness before. K had hearing loss and visual impairment, both at the same time. Imagine a world without two of the most vital senses and she was right there. I was scared. I was hurting because I knew my daughter was scared and lost. She was just two years old at that time, she could not even talk, and I knew she would have many questions, but she just did not know how to ask. I was scared whether I would be able to help her, guide her, teach her and make her a self sufficient, responsible, independent individual or not. I was scared, because I did not know how to protect her. I wanted to see the life from her perspective, to understand her frustrations, and I was scared that I would fail.
This poem is very special to me because it helped me to release my bundled up emotions and motivated me to look beyond the heartache and pain I was feeling in my heart for K.
O' Angel of Mine -
She came to me with questions in her eyes
as if she wanted to say, O, mother of my,
Why cant I see the bright sun light?
The flowers bloom, the butterflies fly?
Why is there so much darkness around?
Where are the stars, the moon can't be found?
Did the little bird in the garden finish her nest?
Are the trees still green? Is the sun still round??
O mother of my, why do I feel so lost?
I am so confused, for suddenly the world is dark!
I am surrounded by many questions, where am I?
Where did everything go?? Tell me, O mother of my !!
Where did everything go?? Tell me, O mother of my !!
I hugged my little girl, and wiped her tears,
I told her, don't you cry,
Honey, you are in a better world,
The butterfly is You, for your imaginations can fly..
There is nothing fun about the sunlight,
And who said that the trees have to be green
And dont you say you are lost,
That is so untrue and so mean..
You have been found by the god
For he said that you need to see the world from his eyes,
So that you dont get caught in the web of lies,
He gave your soul eyes, and made your eyes blind..
Now you can see what we all can't see..
For you will see the beauty of soul and not the body,
For you will see the kindness of people and not their money,
And you will taste the sweetness it adds, but not see the honey..
You will feel the beauty of the nature,
The colors of the flowers will be filled by your dreams,
You will be the little pixie dancing in the Neverland
You will guide the current and captain the boats in your stream !!
Don't you waste those precious tears of yours !
They are far more precious than all the jewels,
They open the door to your heart and soul,
Only let those who are worth it, to come that close.
Shed your tears when you feel betrayed,
Cruelty, blasphemy, prejudices and hatred...
These are the emotions that you do not need in your heart
So when you feel these, just shed a tear and melt it off !!
I want you to make a difference in your life.
I want you to make a difference with your life.
Not a big change in the world, just small things,
Touch a life and make someone smile, one day at a time.
For you are God's special child.
For you are an angel of mine.
For God has given winds, under your wings.
So dont be scared, just fly and fly !!
She smiled, gave me a kiss, felt something, looked up 'n said
why are your cheeks so wet?
I tried to hide it, was embarrased but then I confessed,
Little one I dont care about the trees, moon, stars or the sun's shape,
but I do hope that you will remember your mother's face.
- by Nilam Agrawal ©